Writing a blog is very difficult for me. I tend to be very unfocused with my thoughts!!! By that, I mean that I have a million ideas but not enough thoughts to make a blog!
That reminds me of what the teachers used to tell my husband and me about our oldest daughter, when we would meet with them for conferences when she was in school -she has many splinter skills. When we looked at them with a very puzzled look, they explained the following: She knows many things and has many skills but not enough to complete a task or thought. The educators explained that they are called splinter skills because they are small but when they are put together there are holes and the board is not complete!!! As I looked at my husband, I knew that look on his face was how can we fix those holes so the board can be complete?
My husband was a very detailed ordered person due to being an accountant. He was worried about those splinter skills. He set out to find a way to fix those holes! In the research that followed, he discovered that it is a real term: “ability to do a specific task that does not generalize to other tasks” or ” talents and unique competence by a person that is disproportional to how that person functions in other areas of their life.”
To say that fixing those holes to make a complete board was a monumental task is an understatement!! It took lots of practice, tears, teacher conferences/meetings, doctor and counselor/therapist appointments and tons of prayers. Our daughter had been diagnosed having an intellectual disability/epilepsy/oppositional defiant disorder!
Our family life stopped! The focus was now on Jamie and how to help her. Hours were spent on language development and Math practice with her! More time/money was spent on hand eye coordination and cross the body practice-amazing what Bowling can do for that!! To give you an idea of the skills she has now: she can talk to anyone, she has a great memory and we call her our GPS because she never forgets how to get to anywhere she has been to or seen she is very nurturing, she is an excellent bowler and loves to help others to bowl, loves talking on the phone and has a smile that can light up the world!! But those silly splinter skills still rise like cream to the top, Money (Money is not something she gets so she will give you every dollar if you say you need it), Time (it is as if it is fluid because a minute is like a day to her) and Directions (it is all about the processing of the statements given to her, they turn to a real mix up, we give her many short directions which helps)!!!
We pushed her and did not give her a reason to say “I can’t do that!” She was able to become independent and self sufficient. As she continued her education, she excelled. In High School, she was in JROTC, Future Teachers and very proudly graduated high school. She was able to go to a community college and has a degree. She has even been employed by two Child Care Centers and now volunteers at the local library, where she shelves books and reads with the kids.
So, I am becoming like a builder to make my (thoughts)splinters into a board. I will be writing an entry every WEEK ! That is a big commitment! Come back and check on the progress! :